From the Elephant Journal blog site, relating to the sentiments in my last post:
This song, by the Alaska String Band has been replaying over and over in my mind for the last week since my roommate first played it for me.
All religious language of God and Jesus aside here (I am not a religious person in any sense of the word), it’s as if my inner one wanted me to hear this when I tried to take my life two and a half years ago. She wants me to hear this now, to comfort me, and reassure me, and help me heal from that time. I’m not sure where she ends and my higher power begins. She and my highest self are the same. This was her voice, steady and unwavering, and which I couldn’t hear. It’s as if she is singing it to me now, telling me how much she loves me. She takes my hand, and tells me she is there, has always been there, and will never leave me. She will never stop singing this song to me. This is her voice now and always.
“Farther on, still go farther … Jesus will foresake you never. It is better farther on.”
“The way the woman is treated as a victim may also influence her ability to cope. This includes treatment by:
- The police. Of necessity the police are required to question the victim thoroughly. If this is not explained to her she may perceive that she is not believed and this can reinforce feelings of guilt and self blame. If she is unable to accurately describe her assailant or recall details of the attack, this may reinforce feelings of low self worth and inadequacy.
- Hospital service. If the victim is treated in an impersonal manner then the feelings of depersonalization are reinforced. If hospital staff offer judgement comments on her behaviour then feelings of guilt can be produced.
- The courts. The above comments apply here as well. The cross examination can seem like a repeat of the rape experience.
- The circumstances of the assault can affect the victim’s coping capacity.”
(Rape Trigger warning)
I was rather disturbed to read a recent newspaper article stating that certain sections of the police force in the UK had been encouraging rape victims to drop cases in order to keep statistics on the good side. READ. This is horrifying and makes a mockery of the “serve and protect” stance taken by law enforcement.
Rape should never be encouraged and certainly not in these times where one cannot pick up a newspaper without reading about some vile act committed in one country or another. Anyone who has been raped,whether male or female will attest to the trauma experienced, the overpowering of will, the helplessness, the violation and the long, hard road to recovery. Some never recover (as I know from my clients) and spend their lives dealing with the ongoing effects of being attacked . So to have the very institution that is responsible for catching…
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I might be able to relate to this article. Just a little.
It is essential for them to understand that their symptoms come from somewhere, so they can have compassion for themselves …
Developmental Trauma Disorder, Frozen Trauma, Complex Trauma, Attachment Disorder — whatever it’s called, it’s been a long time coming for the weight and the cost of repeated childhood trauma to be given its proper weight.
by Karyn Hall, PhD, at Psych Central
I simplified the wording of the actual three factors:
- Level of vulnerability to social disconnection.
- Ability to regulate the emotions associated with feeling isolated.
- Mental representations, expectations and reasoning of/about others.
My favourite paragraph:
Sometimes lonely people have difficulty because they view themselves as inadequate or unworthy. Shame about who you are will block making connections with others.