In Sandra Maitri’s The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram: 9 Faces of the Soul, I found this stunning description of love; but it does require a small amount of pre-amble.
In the work of the Enneagrams, the term Holy Idea refers to an experience of reality; it has NOTHING to do with religion. Another way of describing the concept of the Holy Idea, in my own words, might be ‘Universal Human Experience of Reality’. There are 9 of them, which correspond with the 9 points of the Enneagram, which represent 9 dimensions / patterns of human experience.
While many online descriptions of the Enneagram types read much like horoscopes or astrological descriptions of personality, Maitri’s book describes the dynamics of the inner psyches and life patterns of each type, with specific reference not only to the personality, which is described by Maitri as being the outer-most level of consciousness, but also to the Soul and the Spirit.
In the chapter on the 9th point, this description of the Holy Idea of Holy Love (that is how it is talked about in the book) is quoted by Maitri from her colleague A.H. Almaas:
“Holy Love is a clear and distinct quality of the very substance and consciousness of each essential aspect. Holy Love is seen in the positive, uplifting, and blissful affect and effect of each aspect. It is the sweetness and softness in Love. It is the lightness and playfulness in Joy. It is the preciousness and the exquisiteness of Intelligence and Brilliancy. It is the purity and the confidence of Will. It is the aliveness, excitement, and glamour of the Red or Strength aspect. It is the mysteriousness and silkiness in the Black or Peace aspect. It is the wholeness and integrity in the Pearl or Personal Essence. It is the freshness and the newness of Space. It is the depth, the deep warmth, and the satisfying realness of Truth.”
Maitri goes on,
“Holy Love is the perception that our essential nature, regardless of which of its qualities is forefront at any given time, is innately beautiful and that the experience of it is always a positive experience. …When we experience Being directly, without the filter of our conceptual mind, the effect it has upon us is of a sense of meaning, of value, of benefit, of fulfillment. Our souls relax, our hearts open, and we experience a sense of well-being in such moments. We are responding to the inherent characteristic of reality that Holy Love describes — its pure positivity.”