on grieving and recovering identity

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Quote from the movie The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel:

“Is it really them we are grieving for, or is it our own loss we are mourning? Have we traveled far enough that we can allow our tears to fall?”

My response — why this quote speaks so deeply to me:

“One by one, the tears are allowed to fall — the things that have happened in the past that affect our present sense of well-being in the world,

because of the unseen truth in them, and the resulting loss of identity.

In recovery, we come far enough to remember those events and experiences, see and feel the truth of them, grieve them and finally shed them, like tears.

With every “tear” shed, we reclaim a part of our identity, and integrate it into our present sense of well-being. Each is an integral part of what has brought us here, and the gifts that we are here to give.”  

— Innerlight



(Photo credit: armigeress)

“Was it the disease that took me down so many times, or were all those times reflecting more the extent of the damage I was carrying? What then is this word ‘disease’? We cannot separate the body from the spirit. An ailment in one inevitably becomes an ailment in the other.”   — Innerlight


Author: innerlight

A capricorn horse. Creative dreamer, over thinker. bpd, insecure attachment and any other labels for deep and chronic wounds and other gifts of brilliance that propel intense and eclectic lives and make for good art. We are high needs and high return, all the way, all the way. Surrender, integration, repair, rebuild, connect, create, evolve. Deeply.

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