(my post step four introduction is the context for this series of posts.)
It does not agree with me to push myself so hard. The challenge of this term is quite extreme for me. I hit a wall of exhaustion today, and had to take the night off — from studying, from work, and basically the world. I watched TV all night. I didn’t respond to my husband texting me. I just needed to escape.
I am not motivated to learn when there is this much workload and the tests are not straight forward and the scores do not reflect my learning.
The notion that I need to own my space and my time — I responded by feeling frustrated and unsupported.
I feel blind-sided by life — smacked in the face and rolled around in the mud, holding on to the rope of my soul, enduring.
There are times when a person needs to take responsibility for the experience they are having by changing their approach and managing themselves better, and these are the majority of times; and there are times when taking responsibility means recognizing situations and people that are unhealthy, and simply exiting from them.
(undated #3 — to my now-ex husband)
I’m drawn to you for the essence of you — the way you smile at me, your sunny demeanor. I’m drawn to and compelled by your spirituality, your compassion and caring for the world, and your capacity to produce and make things happen.
I’m afraid that if I don’t want to be around the whole pot-smoking, beer-drinking crowd, I won’t want to be around you, and our friends won’t mix.
Related articles here, on the subject of step work
- step four introduction (heartjunky.wordpress.com)
- step four – july to november 2010, the nose of the ship begins to go under (heartjunky.wordpress.com)
- step four – the tea leaf reading (heartjunky.wordpress.com)
- step four – new year’s manifesto (heartjunky.wordpress.com)
- Coda 12-Step: my own criteria (heartjunky.wordpress.com)
- Step One: finding the child’s heart (heartjunky.wordpress.com)
- what’s your broken record, shame & a step ten interpretation (heartjunky.wordpress.com)